1 Samuel 18:1-9
18 After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself. 2 From that day Saul kept David with him and did not let him return home to his family. 3 And Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. 4 Jonathan took off the robe he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his tunic, and even his sword, his bow and his belt. 5 Whatever mission Saul sent him on, David was so successful that Saul gave him a high rank in the army. This pleased all the troops, and Saul’s officers as well. 6 When the men were returning home after David had killed the Philistine, the women came out from all the towns of Israel to meet King Saul with singing and dancing, with joyful songs and with timbrels and lyres. 7 As they danced, they sang: “Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands.” 8 Saul was very angry; this refrain displeased him greatly. “They have credited David with tens of thousands,” he thought, “but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?” 9 And from that time on Saul kept a close eye on David.
The story of the relationship between David and Saul is complex. David goes from just another person in the country of which Saul is king to the harp player that helps him manage his rage, to the only man willing to stand up to Goliath then to a member of Saul’s household and the best friend of Saul’s son – amazing for an ordinary person like David.
At the beginning Saul was very appreciative and then he was not. He just got mad.
Sometimes that happens for us. We think we are working hard and being supportive in our workplace or our family or with friends but it starts seeming like no one appreciates our efforts. It doesn’t seem like we can do anything right.
It might be that something else is going on for the person who is getting mad. Something that may have nothing really to do with you. It’s just that what you are doing reminds them of what they don’t like about their lives or themselves or their circumstances.
Rather than get down about things, talk to God about what is going on. Ask for some insight into what is driving things. Know that you are loved beyond imagining and that the situation you are in will get better if everyone can get to know that love. Usually we just get mad back or we feel miserable.
Dear Lord, thank you that you are by our side all the time. That we just need to reach out to you and you are there ready to assist. Help us to recognise that not everything that happens is about us. Help us to choose to try and walk in someone else’s shoes, to try and understand what is driving a particular situation. Help us to be curious and help us to bring love and grace into every situation.
Written by Therese Manning